Individual Therapy for Relationships
Relationship Therapy for Individuals
Whether Single or Married, healthy relationships take a lot of work, expert advice and personal growth. Our therapists understand relationships and can help.
Do you keep failing in relationships?
Currently in one and not sure what to do or how to feel?
Do you keep “losing the spark”?
Struggle with commitment or infidelity?
Relationship Counseling for Individuals may help. Perhaps you are hoping, “I wish that I had a satisfying relationship in which I feel comfortable, safe and fulfilled.” You’re not alone. Many people struggle with chronic relationship difficulties that keep them from being fully invested in their romantic relationships, but few seek help to get there. It starts with you.
Unfortunately we are never explicitly taught how to behave in relationships, and so we tend to get our ideas about what sex and romance from popular media, porn, “love gurus” or word of mouth. A lot of the messages that we receive from these sources are just flat out wrong, and at times damaging.
We at Acuity believe that having a satisfying relationship is based on some education, self-reflection and coping strategies.We offer resources to do just that. We have therapists that are specifically trained in relationship issues, so if you want to speak to an expert about any topic concerning your relationship, we can help.
Acuity’s 1-on-1 Therapies for:
OUR THERAPY APPROACHES
Our Clinicians also help with:
- Personal Growth
- Navigating Life Transitions (relocation, career changes, stage of life growth)
- Existential Concerns
- Managing Anger or Panic
- Gaining control over Substance use & Addiction
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Relationship Counseling for Individuals can provide insight and relief to a variety of obstacles
Here are some of the common relationship issues that Acuity helps our clients through:
- Dating Issues
- Past Relationship Trauma
- Pre-Marriage Analysis
- Breakups and Divorces
- After the Birth of a Newborn
There are a number of issues that may affect your dating life. Here are a few specific dating issues that we work on.
- Negative beliefs and patterns that lead to pursuing people who weren’t interested in you or right for you.
- Constant miscommunications with dates or communication “text” anxiety
- If you can never end a relationship
- Social anxiety or general dating anxiety [LINK]
- If you never feel worthy enough for your dates.
- Body image issues [LINK]
Past Relationship Trauma
There are a number of relationship related traumas that can stay with us for a long time. If you have experienced a relationship trauma and feel that you are still struggling with past betrayals or boundary violations, it can be helpful to talk with someone who understands.
We have a number of trauma-focused therapists on staff. Ultimately we hope that we can help you create space for your trauma and create meaning from that past experience and put it in context for your future relationships.
Or do you think that perhaps you were abusive in your past or current relationship? We can provide you an opportunity to explore that difficult past and change. Some people realize after the fact that what they did was wrong, and either due to a guilty conscience or just a general desire to be a better person, they seek help to improve.
We encourage this process of change by helping clients come to terms with the thoughts, feelings and behaviours that either support, change or destroy relationships. Only then can clients begin to work towards creating relationships that are respectful, caring and safe.
Prepare for Marriage with Premarital Counseling
If you are considering getting married, but have concerns or questions about what a life together will look like, our premarital counseling can help. The sad fact of the matter is that most couples come to marital counseling too late (perhaps even 6 years too late).
By the time they come to a couples counseling session they are already so far down the road of separation, that there’s little to be done to save it. Relationships require a certain level of positive affection and trust, and if a couple comes to counseling where there is none of either, then it’s difficult to find a path forward.
Premarital counseling helps newlyweds to be on the lookout for the red flags that signal the end of a relationship. On top of that, succeeding in marriage takes a huge amount of effort and specific skills that many couples don’t naturally have. In order to succeed at marriage we need to be masters of emotion, verbal communication, body language, anger management, empathy and understanding. We work on couples with all of these topics.
In a study done by Jason Caroll and William Doherty, 2 groups of newlyweds were studied, one who underwent premarital counseling and one without. They found that marriage quality was improved by an average of 30% for those who underwent premarital counseling. How much does a 30% improvement in marriage quality mean to you? Can you imagine how many better days that is in the lifetime of a marriage?
If you could knowingly prevent your relationship from ending by learning what potential causes could be, would you want that knowledge?
Coping With the End of Relationships / Divorce Therapy
The moment you realize you will be going through a divorce or separation can feel like a gutpunch. If the divorce is related to infidelity or betrayal, the event can be very traumatic. Learn more here[LINK] During any divorce, many people need space to grieve the relationship. Learn more about our grief counseling [LINK]. No matter the situation or relationship, talking with someone to navigate what your emotions are or how you can create meaning from your struggle is important.
At times it takes someone else (who is unbiased) reviewing the reasons given for separation point by point to better understand what has happened. Some partners realize that they heard the complaint, but didn’t truly understand it until pressed to by their therapist. We will challenge you to grapple with the difficulties of this experience, but also make sure that you feel comfortable talking about it and let you know that your experience will be understood within each session.
After the Birth of a Newborn
The period after the birth of your first child is one that dramatically changes the priorities in your life and your marriage. By talking with one of our counselors during this difficult period you can reduce the stumbling blocks you will face. In particular, this is the time that puts the most stress on your relationship, and sees the most conflicts and separations. You will likely be sleepless, stressed and emotional, wouldn’t you also like to be prepared?
Our Approach to Relationship Counseling
When we talk about relationships we often hear “communication, communication, communication!” While communication [LINK] is important, often what matters most when it comes to relationships are intimacy [LINK] and emotion. Our therapists for relationship issues focus on this idea, and so are able to cut to the chase when it comes to relationship issues.
Most notably we use Emotionally Focused Therapy to help you better understand and deal with the difficult emotions that you may have in a relationship. For example, you may feel that when a conflict arises you are being blamed or shamed personally. Many people develop a complete aversion to conflict under any cases and as a result either agree to things that they don’t feel comfortable with or never have their needs heard.
Unfortunately for this type of client, they must learn that any relationship between two distinct people will have conflict. So typically our therapists will work through some of the difficult emotions surrounding conflict and talk about some ways that these emotions can be shared.
To continue with this example, we may also use some “third wave” cognitive behavioral therapies [LINK] such as acceptance and commitment therapy or dialectical behavior therapy to help you come to terms with these difficult emotions over conflict. This helps you to not totally obey or fight against conflict anxiety, but to learn that the emotion is there, accept it and continue with the conversation. We know that once you can develop a new relationship to the emotions that are holding back your relationship, you can resurrect it.
One other way that we look at relationship issues is through the lens of family systems theory. The key idea here is that a relationship is a kind of system. For example, say that a couple has just graduated college and finds themselves cut off from their parents. Now the support system that they each had during college is wholly expected from their partner. This sudden change in expectations for the relationship can cause a shock that disrupts the relationship. Learning to set boundaries for your relationships within your broader support systems is an important skill that we work on clients with.
A Note on Relationships
The way we and our partner experience the world are different. In a way, we live in two different realities, so coming to terms with this fact is an important first step. Your partner will never automatically think exactly like you, and you may never truly understand what they feel. However, you can better learn to listen and make space for their thoughts and feelings.
Frequently Asked Questions about Individual Therapy
Should I Go To Therapy For Relationship Issues Alone or With my Partner?
Most couples therapy involves some initial counseling with each couple separately, so if you have concerns over a relationship issue you can start with relationship counseling for individuals. However if your main concern is almost totally with something your partner does, but you can’t seem to discuss it or come to a solution on your own, then going to counseling with your partner may be the best solution.
Which therapist is right for me?
Let us help you find the right therapist. Many of our therapists specialize in anxiety, so view our profiles online to learn more about specific counselors specializing in anxiety treatment or speak with our Client Care Coordinator, who can help you with a personalized match to the right therapist for your needs.
Finding the RIGHT therapist is the most important piece of reaching your goals.
How long does Therapy take?
Counseling works best within the framework of a safe and trusted therapeutic alliance. Since it takes time to build this relationship with your therapist, we recommend committing to weekly sessions for at least 8 weeks. Research shows that consistency adds to the positive outcomes of therapy. Once you reach your 8-week goal, you and your therapist can discuss a frequency of sessions that will support your continued success.
I’ve never done therapy before...What can I expect in my sessions?
The unknown of anything new can make it scary. Especially if you’ve never been to counseling before. Let us show you the “roadmap” so you know what to expect:
This first meeting is an introduction for both you and your counselor. Your therapist will explain the therapy process and go over the specifics of informed consent. From there, your therapist will gather additional information about your history, current circumstances, as well as struggles and personal strengths, which will help them to define a treatment plan that aligns with your goals.
This is also the chance for you to learn more about your therapist. We encourage you to ask questions and get to know them; the relationship you build with your therapist will be the most important part of your work together.
2nd Session and Future sessions:
In your weekly sessions, you and your therapist will use evidenced based therapies such as CBT, Mindfulness or ACT, to help you address your symptoms of worry, stress and anxiety. For anxiety rooted in trauma, or related to obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD), your therapist may recommend treatment with EMDR.
Our goal is for you to find relief from your anxiety and be ready to “graduate” from therapy. In the last few sessions with your therapist, you will review your initial goals, the progress you have made, and solidify your new skills for managing anxiety in your life. At your last meeting together, you’ll have the time for the meaningful goodbye with your therapist.
How much does Counseling cost?
We strive to create access to high quality mental healthcare for everyone. Our therapists’ rates vary by experience and specialized training. We will make every effort to find the right therapist for you.
Acuity Counseling also accepts health insurance and offers both in-network and out-of-network coverage.
We are in-network partners with:
* We do not participate in EAP plans
Why don’t you only use Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)?
While we use CBT as an aspect of our therapeutic approaches, we know that every individual is different. No one responds to any method perfectly, so by employing many techniques we are able to provide the most personalized support. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy is talked about in relation to mental health so often because it has a large body of research behind it and is easy to replicate across all cases. This is why you may hear it called “evidence based,” which it certainly is. However, we use other evidence based therapies in conjunction with CBT in our therapies.
How can I evaluate whether therapy is working?
Acuity is unique because we use research backed questionnaires to assess your mood, goals and progress. From time to time we may share with you your progress on these reports, “you report being angry 30% less days than when you started therapy,” and then ask what your goals for the future may be. We have found that by having clients set their own goals and following up regularly we can achieve better results.
If I go to Acuity for help, does it mean there is something wrong with me?
No. We try to break this stigma constantly.
Many people come to Acuity just to gain a better perspective of themselves and work on some issues that they are having in their daily life. There aren’t many places for people to vent and seek honest help, so we provide that space for people as well as psychologically informed advice to better cope with life’s persistent problems. Even if you have a mental health diagnosis there is nothing wrong with you. We all experience and react to the world in different ways, it’s hard to argue that there is anything wrong with that.
Is medication used in conjunction with your therapy?
Some conditions for some people are best treated with the help of medication. If we find it necessary after our initial assessments, we will discuss types of medication, your comfort with it, and the pros and cons of medication with you. If you so choose, we can refer you to the appropriate psychopharmacologist in the area. If you are already on medication, we will coordinate treatment with your primary provider.
Break-free and begin your journey to
There is a future life where trauma does not control your day. Imagine yourself feeling calm, confident and ready to handle new situations with ease. The tools to living the life you have always envisioned are here, at your fingertips.
Acuity Counseling can help.
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Reach out directly to our Client Care Coordinator for questions, matching, and scheduling:
Our services are also available online through Zoom. Telehealth/Online counseling gives you the opportunity to explore your challenges in life without complicating your daily schedule.
If you have questions and would like to talk about any of our counseling services, please reach out for a complimentary phone consultation or send us an email.
First Session Within 72 Hours of Calling
We book you an appointment within 24 hours of contacting us (usually less) and make sure your first appointment is soon after.
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Counseling services are often covered in full or in part by your health insurance company. Acuity Counseling proudly accepts most major health insurance plans.
We do not participate
in EAP Plans