Child Behavior and Anger Management Counseling
CHILD THERAPY FOR BEHAVIOR AND ANGER
Many children have large emotions. Our child anger and behavioral management therapy works with families to find lasting behavioral solutions for kids and teens.
Is your child prone to violent and explosive outbursts at the slightest trigger?
Is your child prone to violent and explosive outbursts at the slightest trigger? Is this creating significant problems at home or school? Behavior and anger issues in a child can be frustrating to deal with as a parent. It can make us parents lose our own temper as well, frustrated as to what to do next. We understand. We have helped parents find solutions for all kinds of behavioral issues in their child.
In addition to specific issues caused by poor emotional regulation, a mistempered child can upset family dynamics. Because families act as a system, difficult behaviors in one member can reverberate among others, causing stress and anxiety among parents for example.
Many parents feel that they are to blame and while parenting contributes to behavior among children there are many other factors outside of one’s control. Understand that this isn’t your fault, and helping your child find solutions is the best step forward for everyone in the family.
With the proper attitude and approach “normalcy” is possible. Our child therapists have helped families find the solutions that are best for them.
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OUR THERAPY APPROACHES
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Signs that your child may benefit from behavior and anger management therapy:
- Physically hurting themselves, others, animals, etc.
- Threatens physical harm to resolve issues
- Frequent tantrums (especially past age 4)
- Having the smallest provocation send them over the edge
- Frequently lose friends due to their anger or emotional outbursts
- Bodyshakes, stomachaches
- Constant interruptions
- Attention craving behavior
- Refusing to follow directions often
Anger Issues in Kids are Common
Being upset or showing anger is one of our most basic emotions, and is also one of the main reasons we see children in therapy. Your first reaction may want to ask your kid “What do you even have to be angry about? You are a kid!” The truth is that kids face many pressures that are of major importance to them, pressures that we’ve long forgotten. The increasing hours of school and decreasing emphasis on playtime deprives children of the healthy emotional outlets that once let that pressure escape.
Often the pressure on parents to be seen as having perfectly “normal” kids can backfire. If we are constantly asking our kids to suppress their difficult emotions in order to seem okay, we only end up teaching them to bottle them up more and in turn let their emotions control them more than they control their emotions. Our years of experience have shown us and alternatives in behavioral management therapy helps kids learn to express themselves in a healthy way.
Our Approach to Anger and Behavior Management
Our approach to anger management is the same as any of our other emotional behavioral management approaches. We first help children conceptualize their anger (for some as a tangible object) and help them work though how that emotion impacts them.
We use a mindfulness approach at the core of our work in which we help kids find a new relationship to their emotions in which they can accept that negative thoughts are there without fighting them or totally giving into the impulse of them. It takes time to help kids become masters of their emotions, but the payoff is wonderful. Some kids also find benefit in small emotion management techniques and approaches that they can use during the day.
When we help children find greater mindfulness over their emotions, we help them to become more aware of their thoughts and emotions, reduce irritability, and build healthy responses to obstacles.
On top of emotionally and mindfulness focused work we also draw from cognitive behavioral therapy, DBT, art therapy, play therapy, behavioral homework (kids and parents), and games to promote healthy communication and emotional regulation.
As children graduate therapy they are able to communicate their feelings clearly, and work well with other children with less issues.
As we conclude therapy in the teenage years, children should be able to let their anger pass quickly and be able to come to compromises with other people in their life rather than lash out.
Behavior and Attention-seeking
Many behavior issues have their roots in wanting attention (especially from parents). Kids can act in a certain way knowing that you will respond and pay closer attention to them. Keep an eye out for this, if you spend a day where there is a lot of 1-on-1 time with the child, do they have less outbursts?
That’s not to say that the solution is to cave and always give them attention all of the time, but noticing it is there is the first step. Lasting solutions require a retraining of the family dynamics from both the parent and child during therapy.
Executive functioning is the process through which children analyze tasks, prioritize them and break them into steps. Children that have difficulty with this often also have learning difficulties as they find it difficult to be organized, remember tasks, do homework and finish tasks. The fact is that all children are born with the potential to develop executive functioning skills, some children just may need more support getting there.
Our approach to help children build these skills involves ‘scaffolding’, which helps them practice some basic skills in a controlled environment before using them in daily life. We like to think of the part of the brain that controls executive functioning as similar to a muscle that we help your child exercise.
Behavior and Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD)
Sometimes when we talk about poor behavior management we can find the root cause is due to an autism spectrum disorder. If your child isn’t registering their classmates emotions (perhaps playing rough without knowing they went too far) autism may be at play. Children can behave in a way that hurts others, because they may not recognize that they are hurting others. This can make it difficult for them to make friends. Autistic children also tend to have big emotions that they can’t prioritize as well as other kids.
When it comes to autism there are tried and true actions that can help. At LifeStance, when dealing with autism, we use the gold standard approach: applied behavioral analysis (ABA). The specifics of this approach vary depending on the child, but overall they increase communication, social and academic skills.
For example, an autistic child that is socially anxious may spend time learning real world skills like saying “hello” to others they meet. This may start within therapy and branch out to homework in day to day life. After all, the end goal of ABA is to teach skills and perspectives that can be applied to daily life.
While we don’t work with children who only have ASD and no other condition, we do work on any other mental health issues associated with autism. For example, 40% of children with autism also have anxiety. Read more about our approach to anxiety in children. Any number of other mental health concerns are common in children with autism as well. Including depression and trauma.
Advice for Parents:
Anger Issues in Kids
Don’t judge your child for displaying a negative emotion (like anger), but do restrict the bad behaviors that come with that. Say “It’s okay to be angry,” but set strong limits with immediate consequences.
Use positive reinforcement rather than guilt and shame to encourage progress.
Reinforce the skills and ideas taught in therapy during daily life.
You can’t fight fire with fire, don’t get angry to control an angry child.
Work with the child to identify the triggers that make them angry and what they think about their anger, how they feel when angry (tense, scared, etc.) Bring these insights into session.
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